How do you know he's the one? -- I DON'T!

If I had a dollar for every time I had this conversation with someone I'd be rich by now.

Okay that's not really true, I'd just have enough money to buy a top from Mango for example. That's not the point though, the point is this. Why are people so obsessed with the idea of "THE ONE", is this the effect of the Matrix on us? Are we just hopeless romantics? Or are we just in denial, refusing to take responsibility for bad decisions and claiming rather that "It was not meant to be"?

When people ask "Are you sure he's the one?" I give a standard and nonchalant reply of "Nope!". I swear, the look of horror on people's faces is priceless. They are actually flabbergasted that I'm marrying someone when I don't think he's the one. I want to clear things up once and for all.

I DON'T BELIEVE IN THE CONCEPT OF THE ONE! I think God is nicer than that. I can't imagine a God who loves us too much and then assigns a man and a woman to each other, but here's the catch: You can never be sure if that person is the "one". Sheesh. Sorry for sounding preachy here, but take it from someone who has loved and lost (my first boyfriend died in a car accident) loving is not dependent on another person, it relies solely on you. Each and every single day you have to make the decision to love the person you're with. Yes there are some personalities that match yours more than the other, and because of these loving becomes so much easier. I love you because I choose to love you, not because you're the one.

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on a less jaded note. Here's the lyrics to the song I've been trying to find. It's a gospel song and I love it. This is a bit shocking cause I'm not normally religious, in fact no one has called me religious...ever! This song was really nice though and so I'm thinking of including it on our song list. Ruy is this possible?

He Still Loves Me

Took me a while

But I'm finally here

I just wanna testify

Make it crystal clear

See I've been picked out

To be picked on

Talked about out my friend's mouth

I've been beat down

Til he turned my life around

(turned my life around)

[Chorus:]

Seems like I always fall short of bein worthy

Cuz I aint good enough

but he still loves me (yeah)

I aint no superstar

The spotlight aint shinin on me

(no no no no no)

cuz I aint good enough

but he still loves me

Loves me

I used to wake up some days

and wish I'd stayed asleep

cuz i went to bed on top of the world

today the world's on top of me

everybody's got opinions(they share)

They aint been in my position(they don't care)

that it breaks my heart when I hear

what they have to say about me yeah (what they say)

seems like I always fall short (fallin short)

of bein worthy (Lord I aint worthy)

Cuz I aint good enough (no no)

but he still loves me (still loves me)

[All]I aint no superstar (I wanna be for you)

The spotlight aint shinin on me

cuz I aint good enough

but he still loves me

I'm not perfect(I'm not perfect)

Yes I do wrong(yes I do wrong)

I'm trying my best(trying my best but)

But it aint good enough(just aint good enough)

Shunned by the world

If I don't succeed

Cuz I aint good

But he still loves me(I just aint good enough)

If you aint worthy just raise your hands

And let me know that you understand

That we are all so blessed To be loved,

loved

Stand for him or fall for anything

Cause through his eyes we all look the same

What would we do without blame?

Feels like we always fall short

Of bein worthy (we are not worthy)

Cuz I aint good enough

But he still loves me

still loves me)